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What Kind of Animal Are You? Cheap personality typologies will make us choose (identify with) an animal. And while by doing so they cheapen the impact of self-awareness tools that actually work such as the Enneagram, ironically, these pop quizzes are accidentally right about the idea that we ARE animals. Our instincts 'run the show' for us, so we better learn to notice how, if we want to consciously participate in our own lives. Each one of us has what we call our Dominant Instinct, which can either be Self-Preservation, Sexual or One-to-One and Social. Depending on which of these three deeply matters to us the most we will be making key decisions about our life, business and marketing. If you 'know' the Enneagram but don't know and actively (consciously) use the Instincts aspect of it, you don't know the Enneagram. You might mistype people –yourself (and then not work on your blind spots), prospects and existing clients (and then not cater to their needs so effectively as you could, because you assumed they're 'just right you'), etc. Do you know your Dominant Instinct? Drop it below (for some useful marketing tips)! :) -- -- Hi, I'm Fatime. I talk about the #Enneagram, #personality, #coaching, #introvertmarketing, and my program, #LearningToLoveLeading I help introverted entrepreneurs (edupreneurs, solopreneurs and coaches) become better (more consistent and confident) at promoting their services by understanding and using personality to get more of the right clients. Did you like this post? Click the bell icon in my profile not to miss the next one and subscribe to my Substack!

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My friend Niels Brabandt is looking for some help for his final stage of his Executive MBA He is conducting research on the impact of Coaching on Leadership Performance Is this applies to you, could you take a few minutes to help him by filling it in? I’ll pop the link in the comments and thank you #coaching #leadership #science #mba

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𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲? Many people find it confusing to distinguish between coaching and therapy, often leading to hesitation in seeking help. In any ICF coaching education, we always begin by understanding the fundamental distinctions between the two. While both coaches and therapists can be helpful, their approaches and focus differs. Together with Marc Van Huizen, Kimberly Tng, and Daryl Tan, we recently participated in a CNA Insider interview to share insights about coaching and therapy: 𝑲𝒆𝒚 𝑫𝒊𝒇𝒇𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒔 ℹ️ Therapy: Makes space to explore how the past have affected us, identify stressors and trigger points, and develop coping mechanisms. ℹ️ Coaching: Hold space to ask challenging questions in a respectful manner, gain new perspectives, and work towards achieving your goals. 𝑹𝒆𝒅 𝑭𝒍𝒂𝒈𝒔 🚩 Therapists: Engage in dual relationship with the clients or bring their personal values and beliefs into the sessions 🚩 Coaches: Spend more time advising or breach confidentiality by constantly sharing clients' names and stories My personal take is therapy looks into past to heal whereas coaching looks forward to help you achieve. A skilled coach will recognise when a client requires support beyond the scope of coaching and refer them to therapy when necessary. Watch the full episode to learn more: https://lnkd.in/gZij7gpU A big thank you again to Hui Huan T. and Charmaine Tan for piecing the episode together so concisely to make this topic more understandable!

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𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆—𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱—𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲? Last weekend, I took my first step with the Strozzi Institute for Somatics to deepen my journey into somatic practice—an approach that incorporates the body as a gateway to personal transformation and leadership development. Thank you Margriet Drew-Stoeten Elisabeth Weingraber - Pircher Alison Joslyn, MBA, PCC Małgorzata Czerwiec-Ibrom for being with me on this journey. I’m excited to bring these practices into my programs and coaching, helping leaders tap into the deeper wisdom within so they can more quickly and fully embody what leadership truly looks and feels like for them. What is your body telling you right now? Is it calm, tense, energized, or perhaps overwhelmed? Often, we don’t realize how much our body carries—emotions, experiences, and unspoken truths that shape how we show up, connect, and lead. Yet, what’s in the body shapes how we show up, how we connect, and how we lead. Try this practice: • Take a moment to tune in. Place your hand on your heart or stomach, close your eyes, and feel what’s present without judgment. • Notice your breath—does it come easily or with resistance? Is there space or tightness in your chest, shoulders, or jaw? • As you breathe, ask yourself: 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙚? 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙨 𝙢𝙮 𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣? Start there. Embodiment isn’t about getting it right; it’s about listening deeply and letting awareness ripple into each interaction. Curious? I’d love to hear what you discover when you take a few breaths and check in. #leadershiptransformation #personaltransformation #leadershipdevelopment

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Where are you on the Influence Curve? Influence is your ability to shape and inspire people’s thoughts, behaviors, and decisions. As your 'influence' increases, you will: ✅ Command Higher Fees ✅ Become Oversubscribed ✅ Have Sought After Expertise It enables you to compel your dream clients into action. And it’s the single most important skill to take your coaching business to the next level. So, where are you on the Influence Curve, and what work do you need to do to get to the next step? #influence #coach #coachingbusiness

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In my sessions, I’ve noticed a hidden yet very common theme: 𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟. It's rare that professionals seek therapy or coaching specifically to address it. Last week, I attended an inspiring LVSC 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 led by Annemiek Dogan, which deeply resonated with the grief counseling study I completed last year. 💡 𝐊𝐞𝐲 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲: Time alone doesn’t heal grief— 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 does. Studies show that 𝐮𝐧𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 impacts both the brain 🧠 and the body. By unprocessed grief, we mean grief that hasn’t been fully acknowledged, understood, or given space to heal. This can lead to symptoms such as: • 𝑭𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒆 • 𝑫𝒊𝒇𝒇𝒊𝒄𝒖𝒍𝒕𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 • 𝑰𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚  • 𝑺𝒍𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒃𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒔 • 𝑷𝒉𝒚𝒔𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏 Grief isn't just about losing a significant person—it can also stem from: - The end of a relationship - Career transitions - Life changes like retirement, relocation, or major identity shifts In my practice, clients often come with issues like anxiety, depression, or career uncertainty, and when we dig deeper, we find grief at the core. So, 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟? 🌿 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝟒 𝐓𝐚𝐬𝐤𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 (adapted from grief theory): 1. 𝑨𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒑𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒔 𝑻𝒊𝒑: Talk about your loss—whether with a therapist, friends, or family. Keeping it inside can delay healing. Sometimes sharing even the small details helps to process emotions. 2. 𝑾𝒐𝒓𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝑻𝒊𝒑: Allow yourself to experience the sadness or anger. Try journaling, expressive arts, or guided meditation to give space to your emotions. 3. 𝑨𝒅𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝑻𝒊𝒑: Gradually incorporate new routines. For example, if you lost a job, build a new daily structure with learning or volunteer activities. This helps create a sense of normalcy. 4. 𝑭𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒖𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒘𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝑻𝒊𝒑: Create rituals to honor your loss, like lighting a candle, keeping a memory book, or finding new ways to stay connected while embracing new goals. It doesn’t mean we stop grieving or become "happy" overnight. It means learning to live with the loss while continuing to build a life aligned with our values. #LVSC #grief #therapy #coaching

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In the work that I am doing with a range of organisations, staff, teams and leaders and as a therapist, I see the pressures of this hectic life on so many and I feel it myself. In this session we will define burnout, recognise the warning signs and identify tools and strategies that will reduce the likelihood of burnout and enable you to effectively support yourself and your team. I will refer to some practical research-based strategies that can make all the difference. I hope to see you there 😊.

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"Trauma doesn’t have to define your story. Stijn’s journey proves it." When Stijn approached me, he carried the weight of decades of emotional and physical trauma, starting as early as age six. Despite trying countless methods, he felt stuck—yearning for a transformation that went deeper. Then, we began his Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) journey together. And everything changed. Stijn shares his heartfelt reflections: “Through RTT, I’ve let go of so much and reconnected with my true self. Isabelle’s guidance has been nothing short of phenomenal. I’ve experienced growth in every area of my life—emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. It’s a journey I’d recommend to anyone seeking healing.” His story is a testament to what’s possible when you commit to transformation. Are you ready to start your healing journey? Let’s talk. Your best self is waiting In one session, we’ll uncover and clear your deepest unconscious blocks, leaving you with confidence, peace, and fulfillment that flows naturally. With over 100 success stories like Geoffrey’s, the question is: Will yours be next? 💬 DM me ‘HEAL FAST’ today to book your session. Let’s make 2025 the year you transform challenges into abundance.

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What do holistic wellbeing, mindfulness, and a sprinkle of cosmic wisdom have in common? 👀 Answer: they are ALL in my coaching toolkit and they might be the magic recipe for your growth. ✨ Recently, I have been asked about how I got into coaching. Well, you can see my first certification (in holistic wellbeing) in my profile. But, let's face it, no one scrolls to that section. 😅 Looking back at my journey, I realise my toolkit has been preparing me for the work I do now - supporting ambitious humans to break free from the hustle culture, with all the right tools. Check it out and let me know which of these areas you would like to strengthen the most: 🌿 Holistic Wellbeing Coach → Eating your greens and doing yoga but something is still not right? We tackle your wellbeing from ALL angles: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and social. → Time to break old habits or build new ones? Gotcha. → Want to build resilience? We’ll get you there by focusing on your wellbeing. 🧘‍♀️ Mindfulness Practitioner → You're sitting for meditation each morning and still lose your sh*t on the first traffic jam? I'll lead you to create calm not only on the yoga mat. → Feeling more anxious or overwhelmed than usual? We'll understand these feelings together and work on decreasing them. → Feeling stuck in unsuppportive thought patters? We'll break through with kindness and compassion. 🔮 Human Design Guide (soon-to-be certified, and already including some of the tools for my clients) → Want to tap into your best energy? We use Human Design to show you the way. → Interested in increasing your productivity in a way that feels good? Human Design. → Want to make better desicions more easily? This will help tremendously. 🤓 6+ years of professional experience in corporate training & learning and development → This is why all of my group coaching programs and workshops are pretty cool and my tremendous amount of experience with productivity comes from! 👉 If this looks like the right combo of coaching tools for you, here is how we can work together in October: → 9 to Thrive, a 4-week group coaching & community experience (the waitlist is now open and we start in the 3rd week of October): https://lnkd.in/d6Xxa4xG → 1:1 coaching (text me for a 50% discount if this is our first session together): https://lnkd.in/dHAecRm6 → Wellbeing workshops (if you are looking for a team-building activity or to invest in your team's wellbeing): https://lnkd.in/d4EcTUJb If any particular area caught your eye and you'd like to know more, text me. I'd love to chat about how I can support your growth this month! 🌱 _____ 📷 Photo from last autumn when I hosted a workshop at a local cafe for World Kindness Day. It was a blast (a mindful one, of course) ✨

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Treat yourself to the Power of Metaphors this Christmas! 🎁 The first chapters of my book 'Light Up: The Science of Coaching with Metaphors' are available for free at my learning academy: https://buff.ly/450NJ4l 📖 You can also find the full book available on Amazon: https://buff.ly/4dUN5to Happy Coaching! #bookreview #powerofmetaphors #coachdevelopment #coachingskills

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Systemic coaching meets the client where they are and looks at the underlying patterns and dynamics. Patterns that might block a client's progress will stay in place and will even be reinforced until they are visualized and get the attention they deserve.

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🚀 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 - 𝐃𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐂𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞: 𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐄𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐲𝐞𝐞 𝐄𝐧𝐠𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐃𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 In the world of personal development, purpose - driven coaching has proven to transform individual lives. But when this approach is applied across an organization, its impact multiplies - 𝙪𝙣𝙡𝙤𝙘𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩, 𝙨𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙤𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙛𝙪𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝. A recent study by 𝘓𝘪𝘥𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘵 𝘢𝘭. (2023) sheds light on an often-overlooked factor: 𝗮 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲 - 𝗱𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗮𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘆𝗲𝗲𝘀. The findings reveal a powerful link between employee engagement and innovative behavior. When employees feel genuinely engaged - especially in environments that prioritize learning and support - they’re far more likely to contribute creative ideas and challenge the status quo. This kind of culture doesn’t just lead to happier, more motivated employees; it 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙙𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙙𝙖𝙥𝙩𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 across the organization. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬? It’s a call to foster environments where work feels purposeful and aligns with the organization’s goals. Engagement isn’t only about job satisfaction - it’s about creating spaces that empower people to think differently and take ownership of their ideas. If we want workplaces that thrive on innovation, we need to invest in our people. 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙚 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙥𝙖𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙣𝙨𝙥𝙞𝙧𝙚? 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙪𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙤𝙡𝙡𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣? By answering YES to these questions, we open the door to breakthrough innovation. 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙯𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙙, 𝙥𝙪𝙧𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚-𝙙𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙘𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚? Let’s share ideas💡 #Innovation #EmployeeEngagement #PurposeDriven #Culture #Leadership

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In a recent facilitation session, I helped a team explore the power of deep breathing techniques to remain calm, even when dealing with difficult patients. Curious how something as simple as controlled breathing can reduce stress and improve focus? Watch this video where we dive into heart rate variability and a step-by-step breathing exercise that can transform your approach to stressful situations! #growstrongteams #leadershipcoaching #teamfacilitation #leadership #leadershipdevelopment

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👋 Are you curious about visual expressive art in coaching? Would you like to find out how you could bring art in to your practice? Why not join the next online introductory session - ART! Creating Transformational Conversations. It is on 23rd May at 9am BST. https://lnkd.in/dHMSUyk ( 🎁 AC Creative Coaching Festival Goers Discount available - inquire with your booking) Association for Coaching (AC) 🎨 In this AC CPD accredited short online experiential session I will introduce you to the power of art based coaching and how it deepens and enriches our coaching conversations; enabling clients to access a deeper level of awareness, personal meaning and understanding. Coaching with art unlocks the hidden and that which is just outside of awareness giving new insights that lead to shifts in perception and ultimately change. I will share my experiences of coaching with art and how it creates transformational conversations; inviting you to experience it for yourself through a practical exercise, and bringing it to life through art-based coaching case studies. The session also introduces you to my coaching with art framework as laid out in my book Coaching Beyond Words – Using Art to Deepen and Enrich Our Conversations, 2019 Routledge. 📚 By the end of the session you will know if art based coaching is for you and how you can develop this area for your practice. ✔ Find out more and/or book your place here: https://lnkd.in/dHMSUyk #art #coaching #artbasedcoaching #artsbasedcoaching #coachtraining #artincoaching

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Read the matrescence blog post, we delve into the concept of 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗰𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 – the process of becoming a mother. From the physical and emotional changes to the societal expectations, we often overlook the immense transformation new mothers go through. This post is dedicated to acknowledging and supporting this beautiful yet challenging journey. Discover: ✨ What 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗰𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 really means ✨ The 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 new mothers experience ✨ 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝘁𝗶𝗽𝘀 for nurturing your well-being during this transition ✨ 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 with other mothers and finding support You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. 💖

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🌟 Transformative Coaching Experience 🌟 I am thrilled to share this heartfelt testimonial from one of my recent coachees, which highlights the power of a single coaching session. 💬✨ A female Director. "My first session with Stefan was not what I expected. It surpassed every idea I had on what coaching should be. We immediately engaged in a warm and open conversation that felt natural and trusting. Stefan made me feel listened to, valued, and respected. I left feeling calm, warm, and motivated to change." Many people believe that coaching takes time to yield results, but I’m starting to challenge this notion. That’s why I've begun asking my coachees for feedback after our first, 3rd and 9th meeting—to shine a light on the immediate impact coaching can have! It's not just about the tools and strategies we work on together; it's about building a relationship of trust and support from the very start. I’m grateful for the opportunity to guide others in their journey, and I’m excited about what’s to come in our future sessions. Thank you for your trust, and here’s to more breakthroughs! 🚀💪 Stefan PS - Would you like to feel calm? #Coaching #Transformation #ClientTestimonials #PersonalGrowth

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