LA VOZ EN TU CABEZA TE ESTÁ SABOTEANDO "No estoy avanzando lo suficiente." "Siempre me falta algo." "Podría haberlo hecho mejor." Hoy, en una sesión, un cliente brillante se dio cuenta de algo brutal: No era que no avanzaba, era que nunca se daba permiso de reconocerlo. ⚠ Cuidado con la autocrítica mal gestionada. No te motiva, te frena. No te mejora, te limita. 🔹 Reescribe la historia: No es "fallé", es "aprendí". 🔹 Celebra lo que sí lograste. 🔹 Habla contigo como lo haría alguien que te ama. Si alguna vez fuiste tu peor juez, déjamelo en comentarios. Ya es hora de cambiar la voz en tu cabeza. .

When working with a self-critical client, I focus on shifting attention from perceived shortcomings to strengths and growth. I acknowledge their feelings without letting them spiral into negativity. Encouraging reflection on past successes, however small, helps celebrate progress. Together, we set realistic goals, breaking them down into manageable steps to make the journey less overwhelming. With reassurance, they see that failure is part of the process. It’s about transforming “I’m not good enough” into “I’m learning and growing.” When setbacks become stepping stones, self-criticism fades and confidence flourishes, as they realize the path forward is built on resilience, not perfection.

When I work with overly self-critical client, I try to find out, where this pattern sterns from. Probably from childhood as a result of internalized critical "parent voice". Then we evaluate, how this pattern serves my client at the moment, what are the positives and what are the negatives. And lastly we look for ways, how to challenge this approach and how to start shifting mindset towards strengths and self-worth.

I would focus the coaching on enhancing his/her self worth. Digging deep into the reasons for self- criticism, inner child work and supporting strengths and talents, can help immensely to let go of strong self-criticism .

I'd approach the "why" behind the overly self-criticizing thoughts. Then, we can change the narrative by discovering new, positive points of view that fosters a more empowering thought process.

Fornecer feedback de forma eficaz requer um equilíbrio entre empatia, incentivo e orientação construtiva. Veja como eu abordaria isso: 1. Reformule a conversa interna negativa: Reconheça seus sentimentos: Valide suas preocupações sem reforçar a negatividade. Exemplo: "Ouvi dizer que você está se sentindo frustrado e agradeço sua honestidade. Vamos explorar o que realmente está acontecendo." Mudar de perspectiva: reformule os erros como oportunidades de aprendizado. Exemplo: "Em vez de dizer que você falhou, podemos ver o que funcionou e o que você pode ajustar?" 2. Concentre-se primeiro nos pontos fortes Destaque o progresso: comece com o que eles estão fazendo bem antes de abordar as áreas de melhoria.

1. Acknowledge their efforts before addressing areas for improvement. 2. Frame feedback constructively, focusing on growth and actionable steps. 3. Use positive reinforcement to build confidence and reduce self-criticism. 4. Encourage self-reflection, highlighting progress to counter negative self-talk.

When coaching self-critical clients, I have found that focusing on building trust and ensuring they understand that feedback is meant for growth, not judgment is very helpful. I try to shift their perspectives and encourage them to retrospect on past successes and reconsider challenges as learning opportunities. I try to make feedback more actionable and empowering. I also sometimes share my own experiences about overcoming self-doubt. I found that such strategies helped create a supportive coaching environment and over time, they embraced feedback as a growth tool and self-sabotage through self-criticism.

Ask client directly: Ask that judgy part, "What does she needs right now?" If you're not saying things like "...Repeat their exact words..." to yourself, what are you worried will happen?