You Are What You Love Quotes

“We have created youth ministry that confuses extroversion with faithfulness. We have effectively communicated to young people that sincerely following Jesus is synonymous with being 'fired up' for Jesus, with being excited for Jesus, as if discipleship were synonymous with fostering an exuberant, perky, cheerful, hurray-for-Jesus disposition like what we might find in the glee club or at a pep rally.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Jesus is a teacher who doesn’t just inform our intellect but forms our very loves. He isn’t content to simply deposit new ideas into your mind; he is after nothing less than your wants, your loves, your longings.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Antoine de Saint-Exupéry captures this well: “If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Worship works from the top down, you might say. In worship we don’t just come to show God our devotion and give him our praise; we are called to worship because in this encounter God (re)makes and molds us top-down. Worship is the arena in which God recalibrates our hearts, reforms our desires, and rehabituates our loves. Worship isn’t just something we do; it is where God does something to us. Worship is the heart of discipleship because it is the gymnasium in which God retrains our hearts.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Your deepest desire,” he observes, “is the one manifested by your daily life and habits.”6 This is because our action—our doing—bubbles up from our loves, which, as we’ve observed, are habits we’ve acquired through the practices we’re immersed in. That means the formation of my loves and desires can be happening “under the hood” of consciousness. I might be learning to love a telos that I’m not even aware of and that nonetheless governs my life in unconscious ways.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“The orientation of the heart happens from the bottom up, through the formation of our habits of desire. Learning to love (God) takes practice.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Jesus’s command to follow him is a command to align our loves and longings with his—to want what God wants, to desire what God desires, to hunger and thirst after God and crave a world where he is all in all—a vision encapsulated by the shorthand “the kingdom of God.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Our wants and longings and desires are at the core of our identity, the wellspring from which our actions and behavior flow.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Discipleship, we might say, is a way to curate your heart, to be attentive to and intentional about what you love.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Liturgy,” as I’m using the word, is a shorthand term for those rituals that are loaded with an ultimate Story about who we are and what we’re for. They carry within them a kind of ultimate orientation. To return to our metaphor above, think of these liturgies as calibration technologies: they bend the needle of our hearts.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“As Blaise Pascal put it in his famous wager: “You have to wager. It is not up to you, you are already committed.”7 You can’t not bet your life on something. You can’t not be headed somewhere. We live leaning forward, bent on arriving at the place we long for.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Learning” virtue—becoming virtuous—is more like practicing scales on the piano than learning music theory: the goal is, in a sense, for your fingers to learn the scales so they can then play “naturally,” as it were. Learning here isn’t just information acquisition; it’s more like inscribing something into the very fiber of your being. Thus”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Worship is the arena in which God recalibrates our hearts, reforms our desires, and rehabituates our loves. Worship isn’t just something we do; it is where God does something to us. Worship is the heart of discipleship because it is the gymnasium in which God retrains our hearts. Form”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“too often we look for the Spirit in the extraordinary when God has promised to be present in the ordinary.5”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“The great Reformer Martin Luther once said, “Whatever your heart clings to and confides in, that is really your god.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“It is crucial for us to recognize that our ultimate loves, longings, desires, and cravings are learned. And because love is a habit, our hearts are calibrated through imitating exemplars and being immersed in practices that, over time, index our hearts to a certain end.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“if you are what you love and if love is a virtue, then love is a habit. This means that our most fundamental orientation to the world—the longings and desires that orient us toward some version of the good life—is shaped and configured by imitation and practice. This has important implications for how we approach Christian formation and discipleship.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“He meets us where we are, as creatures of habit who are shaped by practices, and invites us into a community of practice that is the very body of his Son. Liturgy is the way we learn to 'put on' Christ.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“You can't think your way into new hungers.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“Similarly, if I am going to be a teacher of virtue, I need to be a virtuous teacher. If I hope to invite students into a formative educational project, then I, too, need to relinquish any myth of independence, autonomy, and self-sufficiency and recognize that my own formation is never final. Virtue is not a one-time accomplishment; it requires a maintenance program.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“It’s like we have moral muscles that are trained in the same way our biological muscles are trained when we practice a golf swing or piano scales. Now”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“For example: never underestimate the formative power of the family supper table. This vanishing liturgy is a powerful site of formation. Most of the time it will be hard to keep the cathedral in view, especially when dinner is the primary occasion for sibling bickering. Yet even then, members of your little tribe are learning to love their neighbor. And your children are learning something about the faithful promises of a covenant-keeping Lord in the simple routine of that daily promise of dinner together. Then”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“The reminder for us is this: if the heart is like a compass, an erotic homing device, then we need to (regularly) calibrate our hearts, tuning them to be directed to the Creator, our magnetic north.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“We learn to love, then, not primarily by acquiring information about what we should love but rather through practices that form the habits of how we love.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“The place we unconsciously strive toward is what ancient philosophers of habit called our telos--our goal, our end. But the telos we live toward is not something we primarily know or believe or think about; rather, our telos is what we want, what we long for, what we crave. It is less an ideal that we have ideas out and more a vision of "the good life" that we deisre”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“You might have Bible verses on the wall in every room of the house and yet the unspoken rituals reinforce self-centeredness rather than sacrifice. Thus”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“We aren’t really motivated by abstract ideas or pushed by rules and duties. Instead some panoramic tableau of what looks like flourishing has an alluring power that attracts”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“But one of the unintended consequences of the Protestant Reformation, Taylor argues, was a disenchantment of the world. Critical of the ways such an enchanted, sacramental understanding of the world had lapsed into sheer superstition, the later Reformers emphasized the simple hearing of the Word, the message of the gospel, and the arid simplicity of Christian worship. The result was a process of excarnation—of disembodying the Christian faith, turning it into a “heady” affair that could be boiled down to a message and grasped with the mind. To use a phrase that we considered above, this was Christianity reduced to something for brains-on-a-stick. The”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“worship is not primarily a venue for innovative creativity but a place for discerning reception and faithful repetition. That”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit

“This is one of the reasons why worship is not some escape from "the work week." To the contrary, our worship rituals train our hearts and aim our desires toward God and his kingdom so that, when we are sent from worship to take up our work, we do so with a habituated orientation toward the Lover of our souls.”
― James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit